Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony make a marvelous pair…now.
Though their 2004 wedding was picture-perfect—and a tad scandalous, coming as it did on the heels of Lopez’s broken engagement to Ben Affleck the thrice-married J.Lo herself has since admitted that the honeymoon period was brief, even though their twins weren’t born until 2008. They divorced in 2011.
“I hung in there for seven years,” is how she put it to W this past summer. “I knew very quickly that it wasn’t the right thing.”
Moreover, “When my marriage ended, it was not easy to find forgiveness. It wasn’t the dream that I had hoped for, and it would have been easier to fan the flames of resentment, disappointment, and anger. But Marc is the father of my children, and that’s never going away. So, I have to work to make things right. And that is, by far, the hardest work I do.”
All of which sounds tortuous, albeit necessary in order to maintain one’s own peace of mind. And yet, despite the personal trials and tribulations Lopez was experiencing, her post-marital relationship with Anthony seems far and away more enjoyable than their marriage, judging by what the singer herself has said.
Being married to anyone is work, countless times more work if one or both people are as famous as Anthony and Lopez—who did put up an almost flawlessly united front while they were together.
“Everything is great about my marriage,” Lopez mused to Latina magazine in 2010, about a year and a half before they separated. “First and foremost, we love each other, truly love each other in a way that’s very deep and meaningful, not in a superficial sort of way. There’s a deep respect, admiration and love for each other. We honestly believe that we make each other better people…We force each other to be better, and I think in a relationship, that’s how it should be. You shouldn’t be with somebody if he makes you feel less than who you are.”
That being said, she added, “What people don’t talk about, which is interesting to me, is how you have to put as much work into your relationships as you do into anything else.
“We put so much into our careers, and I’m all for that, but there’s also a lot of work that goes into making a successful partnership and marriage. It’s not easy, and anybody who’s successful at it deserves a pat on the back. You’ve got to grow with each other; you’ve gotta bend over backwards for each other. It’s a lot of stuff. Women have to find a balance where you can stand on your own so you don’t lose your individual power. I can’t just become ‘us,’ and I think women do that a lot—become his wife, his girlfriend.”
And while Lopez was never in any danger of becoming merely “Marc Anthony’s wife,” sometimes the dynamic just isn’t right—even when the perfection on paper persists.
Which is probably why so many people are all aflutter over the kiss the exes—who had already been performing, making music and campaigning for Hillary Clintontogether in recent months—shared after their surprise duet at the 2016 Latin Grammys last night.
Never mind that they’ve been closely co-parenting son Max and daughter Emme for years now, spending birthdays and other family milestones together, and have always operated with a certain level of affection. And double-never-mind that Anthony’s been married for two years to model Shannon de Lima.
Source : eonline.com